Tuesday, May 6, 2008

When Pigs Fly


Pigs can fly!
I didn't think it could ever happen, in fact I would have sworn it was not possible. But I was wrong.....dead wrong. I can't believe it, but I recieved some of the most disturbing news and it has turned my world up side down. Have you ever gotten a phone call and you could not tell if someone was teasing you or not? Have you ever had that sick feeling and there was just nothing you could do? It happened to me yesterday. I had been gone off and on all day, had soccer games to attend and re-take pictures for team and individuals. It was a busy day. I had gotten back home and was talking on the phone when I got that familiar beep, someone trying to get through. I had not talked to the person I was on the phone with for quite some time so I ignored the other call. A few minutes later another call came again from the same person, but I figured I would just call her back when I got off the phone. She won't mind, she will understand, we have both been in that situation before. Then my house phone rings, (I was on my cell phone). We were outside so we were not able to get to the phone and again I just figured I would get back with her in just a few minutes. Then my husbands' phone rang. Ok, this is not normal and something is up. I feel it now. So I tell my friend with whom I am talking with on my cell phone that I better go. Two calls on the cell, one on the house and then a call to my husband, something is up. She said she understood and we would talk again later.
I call her and ask is something wrong? And her reply....yes. Do you need me? Do I need to come over and she says no. What's wrong? He is leaving me. WHAT? Are you kidding me? This is not funny, hey, I'm serious this is not funny. I'm not kidding you, he told me he has found someone else and he is leaving.
What do you say? What do you do? This is after ....25 years......!!! Can you believe that? How does that happen? How do you tell the kids. There are still two kids at home, and two other kids grown with babies of their own. How do you go on? How do you continue to have your faith in God (both are strong Christians!) How do you get out of bed and go on day after day? Your world is now upside down. Your head is just spinning. This is the couple that beat all odds, got married in high school, had four children, struggled with teenage issues, had good job, lost it. Had a nice house, ruined by a flood. Had a heart attack and survived never to be the same again. How do you keep going? I know, I know, you are going to say....keep your faith, it will get better. Just pray to God for peace, find strength. Yes, I told her those too. But it is hard, so very hard to accept those words of wisdom when you are going through it. Blindsided. Never saw it coming, still don't want to see it. I keep thinking he will come to his senses and come back saying I'm so sorry I hurt you. She wants him back in her life, in her arms, in her bed at night. There to help with the kids and the house. There to laugh at the grandkids and watch them grow together. That is the key word...TOGETHER. How does this happen? How do you celebrate 25 years together on a cruise, how do you help your church with the family life conference? How do you do this? I don't know. I just know that today, pigs fly.

6 comments:

We are THAT Family said...

That is so sad. I can't imagine how shocking it must have been, but it just goes to show you can't see inside someone's heart. I'll be praying for them.

Debbie in NC said...

Oh gosh Lisa...this is tragic. She is going to need you! Poor thing. I'll be praying he comes to his senses and realizes his mistake. I don't think faith can come immediately into play while you're still reeling from being hit upside the head! Time and prayer.

Memaw's memories said...

I'm so sorry for your friend. I can truly empathize. And even after many years, you still think about all the happy 'together' times you could have enjoyed if only he'd not been so stupid.

I hope for her sake, he wakes up, begs for forgivness from her and God, and they can go on.

Didn't happen in my case, but there's always hope for others.

Amy said...

I am so sorry for your friend. My prayers are with her.

Michelle said...

WOW, This is such a terrible tragedy. You first think "how do I go on after this". People are praying he comes to his senses, but I am not so sure that is the right thing to pray for. I am not so sure that if it were me if I would take him back if he came to his senses. I would always be afraid that it could happen again. I hope she finds the strength in herself to survive this and help her children survive this. Be a good friend!

Mommy, Aunt TT, Sister, Daughter, Minor Emergencies Doctor, Banking Expert, Dog Owner, Crafter, Texan, Potty Trainer, Baker, Planner, Soccer Mom, Countless Other Things said...

That's terrible. Just awful. Please tell them folks in south Texas will be praying...